For those of you who know me, I’ve looked pretty much exactly the same since about fifteen years old.
Besides dressing slightly smarter for jobs I’ve had, I’m more or less still rockin’ this very ‘moshery’ vibe and now that I’m 26, and want to be taken more seriously, I’m wondering whether I need to really have a good think about my wardrobe and most of all the piercings I have.
At fifteen against Carol’s wishes after an argument, I grabbed my best friend Hollie and announced “WE ARE GOING TO DRAGON TATTOO!” we walked up Intake and I got to the place declaring how I can’t wait to have snakebites done (the two on the lower lip) now that I am 16. I was so smart. Besides mentioning school every 5minutes and Hollie who was actually 16, being like “you mean, college, right?”. I really felt like I was sticking it to the man. School hated them and would tell me to take them out every class but I’d remove the balls and then keep the bars in because as I said… smarts…
At my “peak” of piercings, I was walking around with two piercings in my lip, my septum, my nostril and 14mm tunnels (which are tiny compared to some of my waybackwhen MySpace pals used to have). I don’t remember at what particular time I started stretching my ears but I feel like they’ve been there forever.
I retired the snakebites in 2015 and decided to go with the medusa! Which is the most fun sounding one in my opinion and sits in your philtrum.
Sometimes I do take them all out and have a day at work without them, people don’t seem to notice which I assume is good! One day if I’m meeting clients though, are they going to judge me in the same way that some of our parents might have judged someone? Or is it totally normal now and I should do whatever I want, after all, it’s my body!
There’s also a small part of me that really enjoyed being part of a subculture. Yes, there was the inevitable bullying at school, but not following the crowd has taught me to defend myself against people who attack you with their thoughts on how ugly you are (or rocks…) and just to accept generally that not everybody is gonna like you. It’s just a fact. Those lessons, for me, are indispensable and I wouldn’t like to be learning them now.
I still find piercings and tattoos and stuff attractive and I like that you can probably assume that someone who also has them is more friend than foe – but that’s not even true, because someone has the same piercing as you or the same band t-shirt, doesn’t necessarily make them your new BFFL.
Am I wearing my piercings to alert other wearers of piercings that we are the same? But, are we? I feel more and more shallow the longer I write this and that isn’t what Sunday morning is about so…
Be cool to hear from some of you who have ditched piercings, styles or whatever for the sake of “growing up”. Am I clinging on to some weird youth? I’m no longer trying to “stick it to the man” I actually want to network with the man and get invited to all his cool parties where people have money!